Mills and Boons

When I was in class 6 or 7, a very good friend of mine first introduced me to Mills and Boons book....I was a kid then...Naye actually stepping into teen age the I was thoroughly thrilled by the introduction to Adult world...well we both were...so what we did was that we used to secretly make a sneak peak into the world of Mills and Boons everytime we would get an opportunity.

first time we got hold of this book was during our class test.I still remember it was the day before our geography exam when my friend Spri first told me about that book!she narrated the story n i was so excited that i begged before her to lend me that book for 1 day.That evening,hidden under the cover of my geography text book i finished the whole book...without even giving a thought about my exam.thank god....i didnt write that story in my exam copy next day...but honestly i was so excited that i kept thinking about the story for the next few days!

From that day started our teenage fascination about Mills n Boons n its tryst with our Exams....somehow whenever we used to get hold of any of the Mills n Boons book,it'd be during our exams or just before our exams....

I remember a funny incident...it was Holi...we were having our studyleave just before our Annual exam.We had got hold of a new Mills n Boons book....so to enjoy the forbidden fruit together...we made up this plan as if we'd do joint studyin Spri's home,when in reality we wud be jointly studying Mills n Boons instead of Life Science!....n this undercover was actually going smoothly...we had closed the door...we were just about to start a new book under the pretext of studying Life Science...when there was suddenly a knock on the door...we were so afraid...hell...we thought we had been caught...n we hid the book hastily under the bed...there rushed in Spri's cousin in the room....Naye he didnt catch us with those 'Sinful' books .....rather this Big Fella had come to smear our face with colour...so instead of thinking about the book, we were rather busy saving ourselves from this unexpected attack!After all "Ya Palayati Sa Jiboti"..so we had to follow this sanskrit saying! Obviously we were defeated in the end ...n we ended up looking like ghosts or aliens from Pluto......n there in ended our undercover operation of enjoying the Mills n Boons together....

We have read many more Mills n Boons later in our life ....but I can never forget that disastrous yet unforgettable experience of reading Mills n Boons together in Spri's home!

Freud the Father of Psychoanalysis

Mr Sigmund Freud is perhaps the one of the most well known people in the world....not bcoz everyone knows what he has actually said...because people think that Freud only believed in one thing...libido......and so people laugh about him....quote him (without knowing the actual quotation)....and perhaps comment on him too!They think quoting or saying something about Freud is pretty cool...and Psychology is so easy to understand.Naye my friends !all these 3yrs I've been trying to study Psycholgy..and it's indeed a complicated as one can be...after all it deals mainly with the ever mysterious Human Mind!So let me tell you all that if you try and understand Freud you'll see that many of his works are rather laudable...after all he was a man who had the courage to talk about sexual instincts in the Victorian age!So I'm writing to provide certain interesting parts from his work...Defense mechanisms.

The defense mechanisms are the methods by which the ego can solve the conflicts between the super-ego and the id. The use of defense mechanisms may attenuate the conflict between the id and super-ego, but their overuse or reuse rather than confrontation can lead to either anxiety or guilt which may result in psychological disorders such as depression. His daughter Anna Freud had done the most significant work on this field, yet she credited Sigmund with defense mechanisms as he began the work. The defense mechanisms include denial, reaction formation, displacement, repression/suppression (the proper term), projection, intellectualization, rationalization, compensation, sublimation and regressive emotionality.

• Denial occurs when someone fends off awareness of an unpleasant truth or of a reality that is a threat to the ego. For example, a student may have received a bad grade on a report card but tells himself that grades don't matter. (Some early writers argued for a striking parallel between Freudian denial and Nietzsche's ideas of ressentiment and the revaluation of values that he attributed to "herd" or "slave" morality.)
  

• Reaction formation takes place when a person takes the opposite approach consciously compared to what that person wants unconsciously. For example, someone may engage in violence against another race because, that person claims, the members of the race are inferior, when unconsciously it is that very person who feels inferior.
  
• Displacement takes place when someone redirects emotion from a "dangerous" object to a "safe" one, such as punching a pillow when one is angry at a friend.
  

• Repression occurs when an experience is so painful (such as war trauma) that it is unconsciously forced from consciousness, while suppression is a conscious effort to do the same.
  
• Psychological projection occurs when a person "projects" his or her own undesirable thoughts, motivations, desires, feelings — basically parts of oneself — onto someone or something else. Since the person is experiencing particular desires, feelings, thoughts, or anxieties, s/he is more prone to attribute those same characteristics to the thoughts, feelings, and motivations of others.
  
• Intellectualization involves removing one's self, emotionally, from a stressful event, by focusing on rational and factual components of the situation.
  
• Rationalization involves constructing a logical justification for a decision that was originally arrived at through a different mental process. For example, Jim may drink red wine because he is an alcoholic, but he tells himself he drinks it because it has some health benefits, in order to avoid facing his alcoholism.
  
• Compensation occurs when someone takes up one behaviour because one cannot accomplish another behaviour. For example, the second born child may clown around to get attention since the older child is already an accomplished scholar.
  
• Sublimation is the channeling of impulses to socially accepted behaviours. For instance, an aggressive or homicidal person may join the military as a cover for their violent behavior.

These are some of the important Defense Mechanisms.See if you find something which you may use in your own life!!

Lost Days

Human beings been rational are mostly concerned about the present.Live in the present......thats what we hear most of the time.In the constant urge to live the present accordingly,most of us knowingly or unknowingly ignore the past.....we seem to forget that it is the past which actually paves the road unto present.And I daresay I've found myself guilty in this issue!

A few days back as Iwas cleaning my cabinet I came across many old greeting cards...letters...all of which bears the mark of my Past!They were given by many a school friends......some has remained friend till date,some has left the town,some went to other schools or colleges and some had turned into foe from being friend.But to say it in one sentence I had been overlooking my past in my effort to turn over a new leaf in my life!I had been a fool to think that past doen't matter ....well it does certainly else we would have come from nowhere!Now I had understood that I really have had some beautiful,wonderful people in my life.....they had come into life....gave me invaluable lessons....gave certain wonderful things to remember and I had been stupid enough in trying to cast away those memories!We have had some wonderful time,shared so many things,had the usual fights.....but I can't deny it that I had a wonderful time.Though there are certainly some memories which I would like to forget,but all these have actually helped me into evolving into the Present Me and howsoever I may try I can't deny this universal fact.

I don't want to prove anything by this but I have rather seen people like who like me has tried to ignore the past or in any tried to avoid the past due some unwanted reason or something too bitter which would be better if forgotten.But I tell you from personal experience the more we try to repress our past the more difficult it is and even when you remember them ,they are very painful for you.The best would be perhaps to keep Past as sort of a guide which would actually show you how far yoou have progressed in your matter of evolution....how far you've developed as a better human being............I seriously don't know what crap i'm scribbling....but one thing I know that if someday I meet those people of my Past I would actually come up and thank them because I truly believe whatever I am today I am because of them and I'm glad they came into my life!